Doing something new requires being willing to be bad at something until you become skilled at it. It requires humility and a willingness to fail forward. If you’ve paid attention to your life’s journey, chances are good you’ve experienced plenty of versions of yourself, and have been resurrected from the ashes of various trials and tribulations to get where (and be who) you are now. “It is not more surprising to be born twice than once; everything in nature is…..
Somewhere during my mid-40s, I read a book by Pema Chödrön that describes the charnel ground. If you aren’t aware of this term, it refers to an open-air crematorium of sorts, where bodies are left out in the open to decompose naturally—usually connected with Hindu or Buddhist cultures. The charnel ground is full of profound transpersonal significance. It represents the ‘death of ego’ and the end of: • Attachment to this body and life • Craving for a body and…..
Do you ever wonder why some people seem to bounce back after misfortune and crises while others don’t? There are a myriad of reasons, some of which are 100% beyond their control (genetic luck, geographic random location), but some things are not only controllable, but can be cultivated. Your happiness set point can be determined by many things, but these four things represent major areas: • Financial cushion • Health — mental, spiritual, physical • Community • Family These are…..
The picture above is of me at approximately 29 years old. Two of my daughters are with me outside the daily newspaper where I worked—my oldest daughter is probably inside the building, chatting up the reporters in the newsroom. My youngest daughter recently posted it on her Instagram (she’s the baby in the picture). She is currently 29; her older sisters 30 and 34, respectively. What follows is a bit of introspection and work-in-progress exposition for my next book. I…..
How many of you are good at giving compliments? How many of you are good at graciously accepting them? If you’re like most people, it’s easier for you to give a compliment than it is to receive one. Know this: when you minimize or refuse to accept a compliment, you are insulting the giver and telling yourself that you are not worthy. Am I being harsh? Nope. As a writer, I love words. I love how words convey meaning, mood…..
For most of us, we’ve experienced over two years of some version of lockdown. It has been a period of trauma and uncertainty. Even with the vaccine rollouts, there will be months, if not years of recalibration ahead of us. Early on during Quarantine Life, I sent out a message in response to a “hustle porn” tweet that essentially said if you don’t emerge from lockdown without having mastered a second language, launching your next company etc., you were a…..
So you’ve decided to change your life. Whoo hoo! Let’s begin by taking a few minutes to chart your course — bearing in mind that the trip we take isn’t always the trip we plan(ned). That said, intention is a powerful tool in helping you get where you want to go. Consider your journal to be a map of your inner workings. And as with any journey, preparation will help you to be more efficient, more effective and ultimately, more…..
During a recent Zoom call with a business consultant who is helping me to edit a messaging video for my upcoming happiness trainer coursework, a revelation occurred to me. While others can help us reach our goals, ultimately, any forward progress depends on our own efforts and actions. Thusly inspired, after our call, I spent time framing out the workbook content. Today, I’ve been culling my notebooks for snippets and thoughts I’ve kept in my journals—wading through years of content,…..
So many of us go through our daily activities basing our actions on internal scripts composed of engrained thoughts and beliefs. Few of us question those beliefs, buried deep within our subconscious. Sometimes it’s difficult to even realize that you’re basing your actions on those beliefs because their scripts were established before the formation of your autonomy (usually considered formed by age six). If you grew up in a family where a specific belief was held and expressed, you probably…..
One fateful Friday the 13th, it was a day like any other: I was hip deep in performing a competitive analysis for a client, determining their place in the social media landscape… checking sentiment ratios, analytics from their site and other digital minutiae … when I was called into the agency principal’s office at 11:30 a.m. The president of the firm was blessedly direct when he said to me: “I have to let you go. I feel terrible about this,…..